Moth-er- v. 1. moth·ered 2. moth·er·ing

Posted by Pia

Lately I find myself using the word, "mother," more as a verb than as a noun. As I get to witness my own fur kids nurture my frail mother, I am filled with pride- pride as a daughter, as a 'mother,' and much more... well, see for yourself...

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Mommies are just big little girls.  ~Author Unknown

1 Mommies are just big little girls. ~Author Unknown

Each species is a masterpiece, a creation assembled with extreme care and genius ~ Edward O. Wilson

2 Each species is a masterpiece, a creation assembled with extreme care and genius ~ Edward O. Wilson

Mother's love grows by giving.  ~Charles Lamb

3 Mother's love grows by giving. ~Charles Lamb

Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.  ~Oprah Winfrey

4 Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother. ~Oprah Winfrey

A little girl, asked where her home was, replied,

5 A little girl, asked where her home was, replied, "where mother is." ~Keith L. Brooks

Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had, and dealing with fears you didn't know existed.  ~Linda Wooten

6 Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn't know you had, and dealing with fears you didn't know existed. ~Linda Wooten

Not long ago. I made the decision to relocate in order to care for my aging mother. It was time for me to 'mother' my own mother. In the process of doing so, some very remarkable things happened...

I immediately met my best friend- who is now my husband. And together with our multiple fur children, my own human mother, and a steady stream of visiting friends and family, we have created a loving home that itself, is nurturing in a 'mothering' sort of way. I feel a sense of gratitude to my mother for this.

So it makes sense that this Mother's Day has me reflecting a great deal upon the idea of what it means to both be 'mothered' and to 'mother', in the verb sense of the word.

I have a renewed sense of how life can come full circle. In the process of caring for my own mom, I have also been 'mothered' in a new way. And my own adopted fur kids-whose needs I have tended to- are now providing their brand of nurturing for my mother in her time of need. It is heartening to see- and needless to say, I'm filled with motherly pride.

I could go on and on. I've learned so much from my ever-evolving version of motherhood-both from my own mom and from my fur kids. There is something quite liberating in the act of 'mothering.'

As so many of us fur-mom's know, the wonderful ability to nurture is not limited by biology or membership in a specific species. We have all heard the tales of a needy or orphaned animal being taken into the care of a mother from another species. Whether it's a piglet joining a litter of puppies, a chicken providing warmth to a kitten- the life affirming inclination to 'mother' one in need, extends itself across species, race, ethnicity, age and more. Adopting a companion animal who needs our love and care is it's own wonderful version of 'mothering.'

I'd also like to point out that offering care and nurturing is not the purview of females exclusively. I get to witness my husband extend love and warmth to my mother and to our fur kids on a daily basis - not to mention, the ways in which he supports and nurtures me in the midst of our myriad responsibilities. He is a source of both strength and nurturing for all of us.

So, suffice it to say that the very wise Ms. Mother Nature, does not concern herself with the details of one's genetics, gender, race, age, species- or other such 'differences'- when it comes to empowering her 'children' with the capacity to 'nurture.'

Thanks to all of you for indulging my own, rather long-winded, way of honoring this Mother's Day and it's meaning for me... as both a verb and as a noun.

Happy Mothering to you and yours.

In kinship,
Dr. Pia Salk

Comments (11)

  • Dr. Pia that was so nice :)

    I hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day. I have something special planned for my mom I'm writing her a rap song. I'm trying to find dark glasses so I can wear them when I sing my song :)

    Have a great day !!

    Zoe

  • Good morning Dr. Pia,
    What a nice tribute to your mom, your fur kids and your husband. As you know, the Glue Squad is having a Tribute to Mother's tomorrow. I have been thinking and thinking about what I am going to say. I want my words to be just right so I have been thinking so hard that my brain feels like it is going round and round. I think that if I start spinning in the opposite direction, my brain will get back to normal again. hehehehehe
    Glue Suad, I am sorry that I have not been commenting too much on all of your posts. I am still sad about Sahara. But, I will get back to normal real quick, like maybe later today.
    Love to all,
    Maddox

  • Hello ladies, Kirby here.
    And hello to you too Dr. Pia. Believe it or not, I have been accused of “mothering” many times. I must know where my Mommy and Daddy are at all times. When one is in the front working, and the other is in the back, I often ‘whine’ trying to get them back where I can watch over both of them. Daddy will often ask me, “Do you want some cheese to go with that whine?” I like cheese and think that would be great. When a thunderstorm comes around, I make sure that they are together with me in the family room. I even know what the messages are about that are displayed at the top of the TV screen. Mothering is a ‘good thing’ as Martha would say.
    Catch you later, Kirby.

  • Hi Everyone- And Happy (early) Mother's day to all of you!
    In an effort to better explain that which I feel grateful for this Mother's Day- I have made some edits to today's post. Thanks for being such great mamas to all the fur babies.
    Dr. Pia

  • Dear Dr. Pia,
    Such a very special tribute to your family. How very true about mothering and nurturing and love. All those fur babies mother us more than we will ever know. Hope you and your Mom have a great Mother's Day Dr.Pia. Thank you once again for a very special post and dedication to your Mom.
    Hugs & smiles,
    Lynn

  • Hi Dr, Pia, As usual, YOU are a very special Mother not only for taking such good care of your Mother, but Mothering ALL of your fur babies and helping many of those in need! I don't have any personal children, but Mothered all of my wonderful kids as a teacher for 30+ years, Mothered my Mom, especially during her final 5 years, and have Mothered 6 of my fur babies for many years! I also Mother other people's fur babies whenever I can! I absolutely love all animals! Sure hope you and our delightful Glue Squad+, and all of The Daily Wag members have a wonderful Mother's Day this Sunday! Love to ALL, Jan & DDR

  • Oh Dr. Pia your story made me cry...How I envy you that you have your mother and how endearing it is of you to take care of her. My husband and I took care of my mom for the last two years of her life, she was only 60 when she passed. I am so glad and happy that we did this as we can have fond memories of knowing that we helped her in her last days.

    I miss my mother so very much and think of her daily, she loved animals and passed this fur-love to my sister and me. In honor of her I made a webpage...this was cathartic for me. (if you wish you can check them out)
    http://www.squidoo.com/my-Mom-Micky-in-Memory-for-Mothers-Day-and-Birthday

    I have two daughters, one living in Kansas and the other in Milwaukee, we only get to see the one in Kansas maybe once a year and that breaks my heart. Since we don't have grandchildren we have grand-dogs and grand-cats. I Love my daughters beyond expression, they are the Love of my life...besides my hubby. ;-)

    Happy Mother's Day to everyone, be it a fur-child or your own child...enjoy the day...God Bless You all.

    Dr.Pia ""Congratulations on your Marriage"" <3 :-)
    Hugs to your Mom for Mothers Day!

    delia & Kitty =^. .^=

  • Thanks, Dr. Pia.
    Mimi loved your tribute to your Mom.
    I won't be with my Mimi this year. She and Papa are going to out of town spending some time with their Grandson who lives in Missouri. I will be with other furry friends at my Dr Becky's. It's o.k., I have my Mimi all the other days of the week.
    I won't have any computer time tomorrow, but Mimi will check in on her phone while traveling.
    Happy Mother's Day everybody!
    Your pal,
    Rebel

  • Dr.Pia, what a good person you are..your mother is very lucky indeed...love, Cora-Belle

  • Hi gang,
    Oh no Rebel, That is so sad that you won't be able to write something about Mimi tomorrow for our special Tribute to Mom's day. See if Dr. Becky will let you use her computer. If not, maybe you can post it when you get back home. So what if it is late. We would like to see what you write about your Mimi.
    Kirby Bear, that sounds like a good idea of visitng sometime to drive your girls next door crazy. We can throw some of our chow charm at them. They won't know what hit them. hehehehehe
    Cora-Belle, what ws your pre birthday gift today? Zoe, please post your rap song tomorrow. I am sure we can picture you with your shades on perfomring it live for your mom. Chloe, I hope you have something special to write, as well as Kirby, Dudley, Abby, Missy Chow, Lola, Kitty, GK, Francesca, Sharkey and anyone else that I missed. This includes humans too.
    I will be up half the night writing something. Oh boy. Can't wait till tomorrow.
    Love to all,
    Maddox

  • Hi Pia! It's Michelle from Los Angeles, wishing you all the best! So lovely to see your story of recent turn of Life events posted here, and to hear that things are going so lovely with your move, caring for your mother, new marriage, etc. This is a beautiful peace here, as well as the amazing pics! You are doing great work, as always! Lot's of love from Los Angeles, xoxoxo

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